Human beings thrive when they have a sense of purpose. This feeling of purpose comes from many different aspects of our lives – family, hobbies, work, etc. We often struggle when an area of our life feels unfulfilled if that’s how we define our purpose.

In my daily interactions with adults on the autism spectrum, I observe gaps in their lives that often lead them to feel isolated or unsure of the process of finding a hobby, dating, or meaningful employment. Part of the process of independent living is encouraging clients to seek out resources to assist them in these areas, and providing coaching on the appropriate steps to take to fulfill these needs.

I observe gaps in their lives that often lead them to feel isolated or unsure of the process.

It is also important to note that how individuals define purpose may change over the course of their lives. At one stage in our lives, employment may be an area that gives us great meaning. At another time, creating a family or finding a new hobby may feel most important. Understanding this metamorphosis is critical in assisting adults on the spectrum with navigating changing needs in their lives. Sometimes there is a misconception that once an individual obtains a job, that is meaningful employment for them. That often is not the case. Hobbies also often change and exposure to different areas of creative expression allows choice and evolution.

On another note, friendships and romantic partnerships can be challenging for neurotypical individuals, and may be extra challenging for adults on the spectrum. As people grow, our wants and needs of other people in our lives usually shifts. Allowing individuals on the spectrum space and safety to navigate these relationships helps them find fulfillment in this area of their lives.